Thursday, February 13, 2014

Choice

People truly are beautiful in their flaws and unique imperfections. Millions of complex emotions and thoughts. Every person you meet is capable of anything. Every one of them has the capacity for unfathomable evil and fearless hope.

Every human being strives, fears, aspires, perspires, cries and loves.

There is no greater work of art, or endless mystery than every single person you meet every day. They should be treated with respect, kindness, patience and most of all love.

The truth is... there are a million reasons to be pessimistic, or negative. So many excuses to justify protecting yourself emotionally, or pushing people away so you can't get hurt.

Choice is what it is all about. The choice to leave each person better than when you found them. The choice to accentuate the positive, instead of perpetuate the negative. The choice to leave a legacy and be remembered with love and grace for the kindness and faith you have shown others. Others who maybe just needed a little of that faith or kindness to have the courage to become the best version of themselves they can be.

My confession is that I am terrified. Constantly afraid that I am not good enough, strong enough, or smart enough. I am to afraid of taking chances because safely having what I already have, is often easier than risking it all to get something better. I have only one real wish for myself. That when I am gone, I will be remembered for my kindness, for my willingness to help those around me. Not for what I could not accomplish or the mistakes I have made.

I am constantly in awe of the enormity of the possibilities in the people around me. How everything they do is fueled by more than one personal experience, more than one emotion. I envy people their mysteries and infinite possibilities, and just want to help each of them unlock that potential, solve that mystery that is themselves.


The hope being that in the process I will gain wisdom and understanding into the mystery that is me.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Laugh.

Now that I have recovered from my vacation and being sick, I decided it was time to get back to my little corner of sunshine :D

If I could only give one piece of wisdom with regard to having a positive outlook on life, it would be this.

Learn to laugh.... especially at yourself.

Genuine guileless laughter has no downside. Makes you and anyone around you feel good. Also it is more contagious than the flu :D

So seriously think back right now to the last really funny thing you did, and laugh at yourself. I think you will be surprised at the effect it has on your whole day.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

New Years.

I have always said that New Years was my favorite holiday. In years past I said it because it was an unfettered holiday, one about celebration and friends. A holiday devoted to appreciating being alive. I have come to realize that what I truly cherish about New Years can be cut down to a single word.... Hope.

New Years is about hope, hope for the future, and that it will be even better than the past. Hope that wrongs will be righted, goals will be achieved, and love found and fostered.

I hope as you all move forward from the New Years that you can hold on to that spark of Hope and kindle it into motivation and love.

Friday, December 28, 2012

Taking Chances


I look back on my life and realize that of all the things I regret in my past, only a few are things I did, and most are things I could have done and did not. I would like to impart upon the reader the benefit of my experiences when I say, Look at every chance you have with the idea " Will I ever have the chance to do this again?" or "Will I look back and wished I had done this?" and finally " How insanely awesome will the story be later if I do this now?"









Thursday, December 20, 2012

Sometimes you just have to enjoy a bad experience.

Most of life is about perception. Events happen around you and you learn from what you perceive about those events.

So I have a novel concept for you gentle readers... Learn to enjoy/make peace with negative events.

I know that is an almost alien concept, but let me give an example. If you dislike sour things like lemons, try eating a lemon and enjoying the fact that you can perceive a difference and therefore choose to dislike sour things, or in other words instead of using the lemons life gives you to make lemonade, learn to enjoy the experience of tasting something sour.

Of course this cannot be done with all negative experiences, so its not the experiences themselves you should focus on, but your perceptions of those events. Instead of letting the death of a loved one drag you into despair, perceive the things they left you with in this life and enjoy those things.

This is a truly difficult concept to explain, and one probably harder to practice. Learning to perceive negative events in a positive manner (seeing a silver lining) is one of the things I would recommend most. This concept will help change your attitude to one that accentuates the positive, and strives to find the good in all things.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

A Tale of Two Messages


I had another message to write about today, but a friend of mine posted a quote that I absolutely had to share and try to expound on first.

“I must learn to love the fool in me--the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of my human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my Fool.”

Theodore Isaac Rubin (born 1923); psychiatrist, author

Doing things for the sake of doing them, because you enjoy them, is a lost art. Look at vacations, most of the time people are so exhausted from "vacationing" that they need another one when they return. I recommend stepping out of your adulthood at least once a week if not more( if you need to quantify a formula). Play a practical joke, go see a funny movie, or simply go by a small ice cream cone. Only kids seem to choose ice cream cones over other forms, and have such pure joy at slowly making them disappear. It is hard to look like a big responsible adult while trying to defeat an ice cream cone before it melts all over you.

On to my second subject.

Random Acts of Kindness

This is something that every single person on the planet should focus on accomplishing every single day. There is literally no down side to this. This is as beneficial to you as it is to the person you perform the kindness for. Things like Paying for someone's coffee behind you at the gas

station, or an extra tip for a decent but shy server. I know eating out is expensive, but that overly generous tip would probably get wasted on other stuff anyway. I guarantee that the server you left it for will suddenly start having a great day, which will make all of their customers happier, and result in getting better tips all around. Suddenly you have lots of people talking about this server they had at such and such restaurant that brightened their whole day, instead of telling another horror story about bad service.

This translates to so many things. Go out of your way to compliment co-workers, even giving a few dollars to the homeless guy on the street corner. Who cares what he is going to use it for, its the act of giving that makes the difference.

I think if you make a concerted effort to give this a try for the next two weeks, you will see a difference in your attitude and demeanor during that time. For me it comes down to a simple phrase that encompasses both of the above principles.

You cannot make someone smile, and not smile in return.


Monday, December 10, 2012

A single glorious light.

For anyone that says, "What good is it for me to fight alone?" or "What difference can my light make in this constant storm?". I ask you to consider this....

For centuries lighthouses kept countless sailors from death, gave them direction and comfort. These lighthouses were not needed daily, and of course never animated , went out and saved a sailor itself. However talk to any old sailor or read any manuscript from old voyages, and they talk of lighthouses and lighthouse keepers with reverence and endearment.

It sounds corny to say, remember to be a lighthouse, or even to ask you to picture yourself as a lighthouse in a storm, but I truly believe that even a single light in the darkness can make a difference.

Inside my empty bottle I was constructing a lighthouse while all the others were making ships - Charles Simic